Thursday, November 17, 2005


Hi, I'm Ju. I'm a 29-year-old Graphic Designer living in Georgia. I share a lovely home with my wife, R, and our four "kids" -- two cats, Wagamama and Josephine, and two dogs, Lilly and Moby. And the only thing that could make my happy life better would be to have children and raise a family with R.

There are a lot of decisions left to make, but we are almost certain we want to use an anonymous sperm donor through a bank and that R will carry the first baby. If and when we decide to have a second, that's when I'll carry.

We'd like to start "trying" in the Spring and have begun with the preparations. R put $3000 into flex-spending to help with insemination costs by using pre-tax dollars, thus allowing us to save a ton. We've been using a basal thermometer to chart her temperature daily. And G-d knows, we've been reading all of the literature we can. We have contact with a lawyer who specializes in GLBT second-parent adoption, which we will persue once we're further along.

Of course, there are many legal obstacles we face, which affect the decisions we make. And I have my own issues about becoming a second-parent adoptive Mom. (ie, Will my family accept the baby as mine?) I'll be writing more about that as time goes on, so be sure to check back often.


Estelle said...

I think every non bio mom worries about her family's reaction. For us, my dad could not adore Charlie more. In fact, if I ever did have a child (far from likely) I fear he will love that child less!
$3000 sounds likes a very good base to start with. Hopefully it doesn't cost you that much! Especially if you use Xytex (based in GA, which I am sure you already know) for sperm. Really, the shipping is more than the sperm!
Fertility Friend is also really helpful... it analyzes your chart and such and, if you have several months, it makes 'predictions' for you. Very cool. Also TONS of Q&A and message boards.
There is an excellent group for lesbians trying to conceive LTTC that we LOVED. Check it out.
Hope the journey is short and sweet!!

Robyn said...

congrats on starting the process. hoping for y'all that it's a short one to creating your family! can't wait to read more!

Katie (WannaBeMom) said...

Oh my God-- you're us! I can't wait to hear more about the adventure and ANY advice I can give to you along the way, I am more than happy to have something good come from all our adventuring. I will definitely be back often!!

Kate said...

Welcome to the blog life! I'm a SMC-to-be, also trying with anonymous donor sperm. Good luck with your TTC process. Saw your comment in Jen's blog, and thought I'd come say hi!

Cristin said...

Welcome to blog land!! Good luck in your adventure to have kids! I look forward to following your blog.

eryn said...

Hey, thanks for leaving a post on my blog. Good luck on your journey!