Hi, I'm Ju. I'm a 29-year-old Graphic Designer living in Georgia. I share a lovely home with my wife, R, and our four "kids" -- two cats, Wagamama and Josephine, and two dogs, Lilly and Moby. And the only thing that could make my happy life better would be to have children and raise a family with R.
There are a lot of decisions left to make, but we are almost certain we want to use an anonymous sperm donor through a bank and that R will carry the first baby. If and when we decide to have a second, that's when I'll carry.
We'd like to start "trying" in the Spring and have begun with the preparations. R put $3000 into flex-spending to help with insemination costs by using pre-tax dollars, thus allowing us to save a ton. We've been using a basal thermometer to chart her temperature daily. And G-d knows, we've been reading all of the literature we can. We have contact with a lawyer who specializes in GLBT second-parent adoption, which we will persue once we're further along.
Of course, there are many legal obstacles we face, which affect the decisions we make. And I have my own issues about becoming a second-parent adoptive Mom. (ie, Will my family accept the baby as mine?) I'll be writing more about that as time goes on, so be sure to check back often.