Wednesday, July 05, 2006

HOW LONG DOES THIS TAKE ANYWAY?

I am SO annoyed that we are going on vacation (I know... you don't really feel sorry for me) and not trying again this month. I know I said previously that I thought it was a good idea for us to take a little break, but I was wrong... I hate it and I want a baby and I want it now!!

The thought that we are doing anything which does not directly work to produce a kid makes me completely crazy. It is my only goal right now. Feel free to think that I have completely lost my mind because I am pretty sure that I have. I know that I am not being rational and as all of my friends with children are happy to point out, I will "miss all of the free time later". But I really could care less.

The idea of going back to work and having to tell all of my friends that the trying was unsuccessful is just awful. Not to mention that it is my job to educate and care for small children, some of whose parents are sometimes less than focused on actually parenting their child. Somehow, this just makes it worse. I think that the only person who has a more difficult job to have while going though this mess is my OBGYN, who told me she went through hell twice to have her little girl, and then quickly concieved two more times very quickly after that. Based on the folks I have seen in her office, my guess is that it would be exactly no fun to deliver babies to 15 year olds while unable to have one yourself.

PLEASE, EVERYONE, COMMENT AND TELL ME HOW MANY MONTHS IT TOOK YOU TO EITHER:
A)GET PREGNANT B)GIVE UP C)COMPLETELY GO CRAZY

By the way, if you were actually lucky enough to get pregnant please tell me what all you did to achieve this.

Maybe I should take up drinking? For me, not the hypothetical pregnancy...

23 comments:

Lois said...

I know that you do not know me but I am Julianna's friend from long ago. I have been reading y'alls blog every now and then but mostly praying really hard for you to get pregnant. Keep in mind I had my son with my husband, no doctors. But, we tried for almost a year. When I finally got in my mind NOT to worry, NOT to go crazy and that it will happen when it is supposed to it did. I checked my temp and made many calls that I would even meet him in the parking lot at lunch!! I always figured that when finally I was pregnant it would be with a healthy, happy baby and maybe all the times I did not get preggers was b/c the baby might have had something wrong with him/her. I know you do not know me but it is kinda like falling in love......it happens when you least expect it.

Enjoy your vacation b/c when you do have a child and go on one.....it is not a vacation for YOU. Being a mom, you don't vacation!

Julianna will be a great parent and you will too! Once again, I am praying for you both and wishing for the best. You both deserve to be parents and I can promise you it will be the beginning of your life. All of these days of worrying you will forget about b/c you will not remember your life before him or her.

Married Lesbian Mom said...

Hi. I am new to your blog. My partner LAuren and I are going to try our first at home insem. next month. We are using frozen sperm. I just wanted to say hi and to tell you I am keeping you guys in my thoughts. And also, would you have any information on herbs or anything that is supposed to help during these times. Thank you.

Married Lesbian Mom said...

Hi. I am new to your blog. My partner LAuren and I are going to try our first at home insem. next month. We are using frozen sperm. I just wanted to say hi and to tell you I am keeping you guys in my thoughts. And also, would you have any information on herbs or anything that is supposed to help during these times. Thank you.

quixoticmama said...

One cycle.

I think it happened due to many things - a known donor thus fresh sperm. Meags was VERY healthy and at a VERY healthy weight. We eat great and exercise. She had NEVER been on birth control. Ever.

Plus a very optimistic outlook - we didn't want it to be medicalized; we inseminated at home with just two of us. We made love after we inseminated (helps the spermies get scooped up). Meagan started taking vitamens MONTHS before trying and gave up caffeine and alcohol even before that.

There's my two cents :P Good luck with your next try - just remember it'll happen when it's supposed to (although I know that doesn't help a damn bit. )

Married Lesbian Mom said...

I just wanted to stop by ans say hi. I am approaching our first attempt in August and I have been doing my best to ctach up and read on your blog and all the blogs on your blogroll. I wsih you the best and hope to hear good news from you guys in the future. Wish us luck...

Married Lesbian Mom said...

I just wanted to stop by ans say hi. I am approaching our first attempt in August and I have been doing my best to ctach up and read on your blog and all the blogs on your blogroll. I wsih you the best and hope to hear good news from you guys in the future. Wish us luck...

MOMMYitus said...

So good to find your blog. My partner and I just moved to NY from Georgia. We lived in Smyrna for years. I am enjoying your blog, and it's refreshing to know that there are other couples out there on this journey too. It's exhausting already. We want to be moms so badly. My new blog is www.redmama.blogspot. com
-Amanda

Sophia said...

Two years and 11 cycles...sanily long gone

Sophia said...

Two years, 11 cycles and no baby. Sanity left the Ewok household about a year ago.

K said...

My partner and I are new to your blog and we live in Georgia as well. We found out Wednesday that our first insemination attempt did not work and I really thought I was pregnant. I think it was the effects of the hormones that made me so sure. We have vowed this time to not be spastic and worry so much. Relaxation will be our priority. Just wanted to let you know there are others in same boat. Good luck next time and don't give up. Anything worth having always takes work and determination. We will let you know how our second attempt goes.

Ryan's Mama said...

It took us 8 months to get pregnant. It was stressful but man, well worth the journey. We have an amazing 7.5 month old baby girl. Best of luck to you guys, it'll happen. Once I took control of the process, it worked. We were working with a fertility Dr., I have PCOS, we were more aggressive with things than she wanted to be but it finally happened as a result. hang in there!

Amanda said...

Lets see...it took us about 10 months to give up (for a while). We were stressed, exhausted, fed up with each other, and over it.
Almost a year later, we're ready to try again with a whoooooole different attitude. For some, it takes years. Some, the first try. i think for most it's somewhere in between, and we are definitely rooting for ya.

Brooke said...

15 months. Granted we weren't able to try each cycle, but it still felt like a long time.

Em credits the acupuncture, plus she got a trigger shot the cycle that worked.

Brooke said...

15 months. Granted we weren't able to try each cycle, but it still felt like a long time.

Em credits the acupuncture, plus she got a trigger shot the cycle that worked.

Anonymous said...

We tried unsuccessfully for about six months, and then we met with a social worker to discuss adoption. She looked us in the eye and said that we would be parents. One month later, we were bringing home our daughter. She was three days old, beautiful, perfect in every way. If you want to be parents, you can be parents. Keep trying and keep your options open.

Holly said...

feeling like going insane is pretty much perfectly normal. we used frozen sperm, worked 1st try, had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, then tried 6 more times until we switched donors. then it worked first time with the next guy. we are only 10 weeks, so i am nervous about getting overly excited, but that's something every pregnant woman (and her partner) worries about.
straight friends of ours tried for YEARS and finally went to IVF. the month they gave up and decided to spend the $15,000 on IVF, they got pregnant naturally. i guess i just started believing that things will happen with fate and we can't control it.
i wish you two tons of luck and hope the next attempt is the right one!!!

gabrielle said...

found your blog off another one from the Lmoms list
my experience has been 7 months the first baby, 5 months the second, first try with the last, all with fresh donor sperm.
what helps, get blood LH levels done, far more accurate than peeing on a stick,
you go crazy the first month from my experience
the statistics for straight people having sex whenever, not just trying to time with ovulation are 25% will get pregnant in the first 3 months, another 25% by 6 months and about 94% by a year, 5-6% will have fertility problems
good luck

party b said...

found your blog through links of links... anyways, we have a nearly 6 week old. She was conceived on the fourth IUI cycle... had charted for over a year before then...

What I think made the difference - well, I took clomid cycles 3 & 4... I gained weight as a result... we switched donors after the first two because of instinct and decreasing availability.

Truthfully I think that it's a combination of luck, biology, magic and everything else! best of luck not losing your sanity - because it didn't take long for me to feel I was losing mine. And then it seemed to fade a bit...

vee said...

Two tries and we may now be looking at our second months' enforced break, no pregnancy yet.
I have found in almost unbearably frustrating not to at least try.

Pronoia said...

We're still trying. I say "still" like it's been forever. It's been four months. I'm about to lose my mind during the TWW. Here's hoping for all of us!

Trey said...

Ok, so ours is an adoption and not pregnancy...

but I feel for you... things getting in the way our our adopting our second child...

work stuff,

tax paper work,

and now... vacation.. just like you.

I am so looking foward to getting this done!!!

Good luck to you!

L. said...

i got pregs on the 4th try, but it took about one year because my cycle is so irregular. when i did get pregnant, i was the most relaxed i had ever been - i ovulated 1o days earliier than expected, i made the appt. for my iui the night before, my partner was unable to come with me... after the insemination, i looked in the mirror and said "i'm gonna be a mommy," and now i am!

it will happen... the patience that you are learning now will only make you more prepared for when it does happen.

lots of positive thoughts-
L.

Olivia and Meredith said...

ugh i totally feel your pain... we are going on vacation too when it is time to inseminate... and we have tried twice and Mer just got her period again!!!!! even when the period comes we are still in denial though... we hold on until the last day just hoping she is just spotting or it will be shorter and there may be just that tiiiiiiny possibility she will be pregnant...
i want a baby now too!!! along with the emotional roller coaster there is also the financial aspect as well. 600 dollar a month... well i guess it is ok to go in debt for baby : )
thanks for the vent... how long does it take with these IUIs... Mer is only 26 I really thought it was only going to be one time... thanks for the ramble session...